Here on the Tatango blog, we usually talk about how to market your business through text messaging. Today though we’re mixing it up a little bit and having some fun.
To do this, we called upon our good friend Mollie, from Mollie In Seattle to help us understand the rules (there’s 10 of them) for text messaging while dating. Take it away Mollie!
So should I text him? Should I add the exclamation point at the end or just use a period? What about a winky face or is a smiley face better? Chances are you’ve asked yourself or someone else one of these questions right?
Everyone says communication is the key to building and maintaining positive relationships. Text messaging today plays a huge part of that communication. We have our cell phones with us 99% of the time and usually within an arms reach. Text messaging and dating can go hand in hand and compliment each other quite well, however if overdone or done wrong it can hurt your chances of finding love. Here are a few do’s and don’ts when it comes to text messaging and dating.
1. Don’t break up with someone over a text message, it’s immature and cowardly. I realize most people would rather have their arm cut off than tell someone face to face that they’re not feeling it anymore, but never text someone saying it’s over. You’ll be respected more if you end it in person.
2. Do spell out all of your words, none of this “Hi wut R U up 2?” mumbo jumbo. If you text like that, the person on the receiving end is going to think you’re lazy and illiterate.
3. Don’t be a stalker. If you have just started seeing someone and they check-in somewhere near you, this can be a little tricky, but it’s best to leave them be. There’s a fine line between being creepy and monitoring someone’s check ins and just commenting on where they are. If it’s the beginning of a relationship leave them alone when they’re hanging out elsewhere.
4. Don’t get all philosophical and try to have long drawn out conversations through text messaging. Nobody likes novel length texts. Serious more important conversations are best had in person or on the phone.
5. Do text someone “good morning” or wish them a good day if you like them. People like to know that they’re being thought about.
6. Do respond to someone’s text message in a timely manner, try not to take more than 24 hours to get back to someone. Ignoring messages and not responding is rude. Don’t freak out if you don’t hear back from someone right away, everyone has their own stuff going on in their life.
7. If you’ve just met someone, don’t text them after 10pm to hang out.
8. Be wary of your voice and tone in text messages, because the person on the other end isn’t able to read your facial expression or hear your voice. You need to make sure you are conveying the actual attitude you want the other person to get. This is why text messages should be kept short and sweet!
9. Don’t drunk text. If you’ve been drinking and aren’t exactly yourself, step away from your phone. Far away.
10. Don’t text on an actual date. Come on people, this is 101 here.
If done right, text messaging will enhance your chances in dating. Remember to be short and sweet and that less is always more.